The One with the Mom

I would just like to dish out some advice.

To be perfectly honest...I often like to dish out advice - though I think I do pretty well most of the time in knowing when to keep my mouth shut. But this time, something needs to be said.

A conversation I had a couple of days ago reminded me of something that happened earlier this year, that needs to be addressed. So here is my advice:

If you are a guy, and you have some interest in a girl, it is not advisable to give her your phone number through your mom. I don't care if she and your mom might work in the same organization. It doesn't matter if that seems like a convenient, no-risk solution on how to pass along a phone number. Don't do it. Especially if you already have access to her email and phone number. Just call her or email her your number. Just don't pass it along through your mom.

And here's why: so you may be exactly her type. You may be a responsible, successful young businessman. You may have just a hint of your edgy-ness at the office, just enough to show that you know how to have some spontaneous fun. Your hair may hint that there's a rock-on side hidden under the professional exterior. And you may have a fantastic sense of humor with a side dish of sarcasm. And there's a good chance that you are VERY easy on the eyes...
But when you pass messages through your mom - I hate to say it - you lose a little appeal. And it doesn't mean you've got no chance. But it certainly doesn't win any points in your favor.